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So this guy you really like, only after a few dates gives you the "I've been thinking" speech. Whether it was the tiniest blunder on your part or something in his world that clashes with yours, he's quick to pull the plug. Since women typically like to use romantic comedies and fiction novels as a reference to their personal lives it's in my best interest to tell you that the men in those movies don't always "think" like men in real life. Generally in a movie when a guy needs some time to think he is automatically ready to pull the plug until minutes before the credits he realizes the bigger picture and they live happily ever after (or at least that's what we always assume). The truth is, when a man uses the phrase "I've been thinking.." nothing good ever really comes after that. Why? When a man (boy, guy or however you want to call him) says they have been thinking it really means "I have confirmed something I have alr...

Ever wonder why when you finally hear from your ex, it's during the holidays?  Well there is a perfectly reasonable explanation to this madness... After a breakup, you may go through a period where all communication is officially closed. You can't exactly pick up the phone and contact them the way you used to and you spend months hoping they finally say the things they should have said soon after the break- up. Why is that when we finally stop holding on to a beacon of hope for them to call or take us back that they finally contact us?  Why is it that this seems to only occur during a holidays or special occasion?  Reason #1 - Loneliness It's the holidays for crying out loud. This usually  involves family, friends, and that special someone. A lot of men tend to put love on the back burner to focus on everything else. However, at some point they hit a day or two where work just isn't enough. They holidays always display that cliche image of curli...

For some people, dating doesn't always end at the time they'd like to. Many of us don't meet that special someone until their late 20's 30's or even 40's. While one may not get it right every time, they're still taking the necessary steps to figure out what they want as well as avoiding the possibility of settling for someone out of emotional exhaustion. You, probably consider yourself to be a smart person, you're independent, responsible, you don't see the world as black and white and you're always willing to go that extra mile. Not only have you had many experiences in dating, you most likely feel like you have dated every type of guy their is. That's when you  meet "him" you're real life George Clooney, Mr.Big and guy you love in all of those Polo commercials. He's suave distinguished and seems like he has it all together. Metting him has allowed you to come to the place in your life where you've grown ti...

  For some people, dating and relationships come pretty easy. For others, it takes a while to get the hang of things. For me, that was the exact curveball life threw me five years ago. If I could talk to the previous me in 2008 today also known as, "the last year of bliss before it all seemed to go down hill", there would be so many things i'd warn myself. Especially since I saw life like a Nicholas Sparks Novel. Luckily, instead of developing insanity for half a decade I eventually discovered all of the "hidden" things i already knew about guys. The REAL Truth... Keep it simple: ( most ) men are simple as in they don't analyze everything the way women do Never cut the chase short by showing too much interest, for he will show less ( Men are hunters, which means you need him to like you a little more than you like him) Never assume that every guy is the exception to the rule Every man loves a woman who c...

I decided to create the best dating rules I've read from magazines,books,and personal experience. With so much information out there of what to do and what not to do you can easily find yourself with enough resources to write a ten page thesis. Dating Rules 1. When saying goodnight after 1st date smile and thank him for a wonderful time 2. If you forget to say thank you just wait until he contacts you again 3. Keep the conversations short and sweet. Don’t text more than 2 sentences. 4. Have simple feedback to his questions that aren’t too short and have follow up questions  5. If the first date went longer than planned DON’T make it a habit for others try to change it up sometimes 6. Don’t make it so easy to reach you, keep your usual routine and wait a bit to reply. 7. Don’t always hover on the phone speak the highlights of your day and avoid talking  longer than 15 minutes each conversation 8.If he texts o...

One of the best things about this generation is able to complete everyday tasks at the push of a button. Transfer money, send email, and even file our tax returns. However technology has also made us so fortunate that it’s caused us to be lazy. Once again I’m here to clarify that breaking is up is one of the most uncomfortable situations to be in. However as uncomfortable and awkward as it may be it should still never is handled in the easiest way possible. What Seems Simple can Actually be More Complicated Breaking up with someone via text may seem like the best solution. You can avoid the weird conversation, you don't have to see them cry and can avoid a couple swings to face. However, there are only a few cases where you can actually get away with this. If you're a guy and dumped a girl via text message, have you ever found yourself ignoring calls and text messages of them frantic asking "why are you doing this?", "I hate you"...

To many, a relationship is about sharing. Sharing personal information that one else knows, sharing your time and energy, sharing your ideas thoughts, and also sharing your dreams. If you've noticed that lately your significant other has been spending a lot of time stressing what's not happening rather then what is happening right this minute you could find yourself to be in a sticky situation if you aren’t already. I decided to write this blog because after reading articles of women in this situation and after being is it myself I wanted to explore why this happens in a relationship. Things are going pretty well between you too and all of a sudden they want to take a break or just be friends because they need to get their life together. In a recent article posted by www.guyspeak.com, one subscriber asked why her boyfriend broke up with her because he feels he needed to focus on a career and school. To the average person that seems like a plausible reason to brea...

How is it that what felt like over night, almost every guy in America now spends about 65% of their time pumping themselves up for games such as baseball down to even the PGA Tour. If your the type of girl who respects sports, but has no idea or interest when watching a game then this blog is for you. If you find yourself annoyed when every other status on facebook is about an upcoming game or a players stupidity on the field then you probably also find yourself wanting to run for the hills just to scream for little a relief. But what if you can't escape it? What if that amazing guy you meet is indeed an ultimate sports fan? Not one game has he missed and God forbid you use Harry Kalas's name in vein. You don't want to insult him by not being able to follow his conversation of last nights amazing turn out, and you defiantly don't want to be bored each time the two of you are on the couch during sports center; so the best thing you can do is actually try to learn so...

Have you ever heard of the expression" I was never in love with them but I loved the "idea" of them"? When it came to dating, and getting taken advantage of over and over again I realized I was always just the "idea" they were in love with. This has allowed me to understand that the typical guy (not all) play by the 80/20 rule. Hopefully when you sit down to think of yourself, most likely you will consider that you are a pretty cool chick. Your patient, your not too clingy, you're not afraid to try new things or get a little messy, your honest,reliable, faithful, and maybe a little flirty now and then. That's when you meet a guy who is just amazed of how rare you are. No matter what they say every guy needs a good girl whether they want to admit it or not. After a few dates he seems to be pretty sure that your definitely someone to keep around. That's until the texts are like pulling teeth to for him to reply, he is always busy and lit...