The 80/20 Rule

Have you ever heard of the expression" I was never in love with them but I loved the "idea" of them"?

When it came to dating, and getting taken advantage of over and over again I realized I was always just the "idea" they were in love with.

This has allowed me to understand that the typical guy (not all) play by the 80/20 rule.

Hopefully when you sit down to think of yourself, most likely you will consider that you are a pretty cool chick. Your patient, your not too clingy, you're not afraid to try new things or get a little messy, your honest,reliable, faithful, and maybe a little flirty now and then. That's when you meet a guy who is just amazed of how rare you are. No matter what they say every guy needs a good girl whether they want to admit it or not. After a few dates he seems to be pretty sure that your definitely someone to keep around.

That's until the texts are like pulling teeth to for him to reply, he is always busy and little by little shows less interest of the both of you being an item. So what the heck happened?

This is where the 80/20 rule comes into play. Although you are everything he needs his mind is still thinking about that 20% he is missing. No person is perfect there for no one can be 100%.

Another way to look at this is you are oatmeal and the other girl (his "20") is a meatball sub. As appealing and delicious as she may be (no pun intended lol) she gets old after awhile an may cause some minor indigestion (stress). However although oatmeal may not be the most appealing thing to the eye its always been there for him and takes care of him every time. No i'm not saying only ugly girls are 80s cause that would make me hideous lol but it means although it seems you are way too good for him, he actually will benefit more than something temporarily satisfying.

So the question guys need to think to themselves is...is it really worth it to look for that extra 20% instead of being happy with the 80% you found. That 20% develops by the love and appreciation you put into the relationship.

It's one or the other gentleman you can't have your cake and eat it too!


*Also remember the 80/20 rule is not always the case sometimes it may be because he cant get over and old 80. He acknowledges you as 80% but is still partial to another he thought would last. *

In that case, no girl should settle for someone who's head is still in the past its best to move on instead of waiting for them to notice you when someone else could already be at that time. Everyone deserves time to heal from a long term relationship but no one deserves to wait around for them until they do. Its not fair to you or the other person.