Let me just cut to the chase and say married men who flirt are NOT monsters. However there is a thin line between harmless flirting and crossing a major line of respect for your significant other. Lets start from the root of the issue of why men flirt. Men are known to be more sexual than woman. Studies have shown that 54% of men think about sex every day or several times a day. vs 67% of woman who think about sex a few times a month. (The Social Organization of Sexuality: Edward O. Laumann, John H. Gagnon, Robert T. Michael, and Stuart Michaels). Even though men think about sex and are thinking about it alot doesn't mean that all men, especially all married men act on each impulse they have. If that were the case every lawyer in America would be booked up until summer 2015.
We all know that come that big day of when a man and woman say their vows in front of God and everybody they are making a promise to each other. However, just because one is devoted to a particular person for the rest of their lives does not mean that every other person of the opposite sex automatically becomes unattractive. Believe it or not, but it is possible for a man or woman to connect with someone other than their spouse. It's just remembering that regardless of how well these two get a long is it worth crossing that line? It's important to understand that men who flirt are not cheaters, but if irresponsible of their actions one could find their selves in a risky situation. There are two types of flirting when it comes to married men and men in relationships.
This usually consist of friendly banter at the gym, or complimenting the waitress when out with the guys none consisting of sexual innuendo or physical contact.
This type of flirting becomes somewhat of an addiction which could lead to him acting on his impulses it can start off as harmless flirting leading to an "accidental" brush of the hand to "accidentally" bumping into each other in public.
Why they do it
Men (and woman) flirt for two reasons. Some are just naturally flirtatious, but know there is a line that should never be crossed, while others want reassurance that they are still desirable to woman. This can help boost his ego thus allowing him to never doubt his choice to be married to one person. Men who are deceptive flirts can't differentiate between what's appropriate and what is not, or at least they choose to believe they have the whole thing under control. Once they get attached to the attention woman give them it becomes harder to not act on their impulses. Eventually this creates a harder time to see the bigger picture. There are also men who cross that line because they are no longer happy in the marriage they are in which he now wants you to be involved in his escape from reality. Keep in mind that there are honest men who usually are good at keeping things "PG" but now have to deal with daily temptation, it may be coworker or neighbor that they have to see daily.
When it becomes a problem
One of the most annoying problems to this scenario are for singles. You might find yourself crushing over someone you can never be with. They get to go home to their wife while you're stuck with aspirations that will never come true. It's hard enough for men and woman to just be friends don't put yourself in a situation that you can't handle because of how you feel about this person. The best thing to do is distance yourself or to just be honest with the other person (especially if it's a matter of you feeling uncomfortable about their behavior). You can't help that you're single and have feelings, but since you can't do anything about them toning down the subliminal "heat" between the two of you might be the best choice in order to get over your crush. The last thing you want is a pissed off wife telling you to back up off her husband.
So the next time that married guy winks at you or flashes you that charming smile of his, don't over think it. Enjoy the flattery that he may try to put out to your attention that if he were single he would definitely ask you out, but If he's not acting on that flatterly by actually asking you out to dinner or hinting that the Mrs. will be out of town this weekend, he's just being human.
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