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It happens all the time, which is why so many chick flicks and vh1 reality shows are built around it. Your once boyfriend is now head over heels for another girl, and your first instinct is to claw her eyes out. When do we reach the point of harmless jealous to total insanity? He Dumped You: In many cases, breakups come completely out of nowhere which hurt the most when you assumed things were fine. Whether it was immediately or after some time has passed he's moved on and you're killing yourself trying to understand why her and not you! If you only dated for a month or for as long as 3 years, this situation can take some time to get over. You Dumped Him For whatever reason, you felt it was time to go your separate ways until the day you find how much of a different person he seems with the new girl in his life causing you to rethink the mistake you made. Ex Meets Next Either you're at a party,random run in at the supermarket, or your bas...

We have all been in a situation where deep down we know the answer to a problem, but need a second opinion. That's when our friends or associates come in handy. We hope they give us an answer we want to hear or calm us by showing we are not alone and that it happens all the time. However, one may find themselves running to individuals who should never give people advice. There are 3 types of people you should avoid taking advice from 1. The Cliche Console-r : This Person would be best for starting a fortune cookie company rather than giving you advice. They pretty much absorbed every line they've heard from movies, song lyrics, and chick flicks. When all of there words of wisdom sounds more like a twitter status don't bother contemplating on what they are telling you. Though there may be some truth to the cheesy phrase they just told you, you're not even listening, you want someone who is more personable than cliche. 2. The Self Involved "Listener":...

Think back in your mind of when you lived at home, and if you still do think back to the days of when you were dating a new guy and your mom had a million questions that you didn't know the answers to yet. "Is he married?" "What does he do for a living?" "Why is he single?” As annoying as it was, you mom knew to ask you all of these picky questions not to be a nag, but to alert you that these are the important questions that you should be asking. How many times have you sat in your own thoughts confused of how he went from this knight in shining armor to Dr Jekel and Mr. Hyde? It's so easy to get caught up in the fantasy, and the idea of something that seems to be almost perfect, but it's more important to always know the prologue before starting the fairytale You know the phrase "Don't put the cart before the horse" or "Don't put all your eggs into one basket"? As old as those phrases are, they say so much that ...

Everyone has a type. Whether it be tall, nice eyes, huge muscles, or a great personality. But what one may not know is while some may be more open to different forms of that type, others can soon become more familiar once they have found a type they really like. Okay so it's been months since you and your ex have split up, and you recently became aware of his new girlfriend or what others are calling your long lost twin. Believe it or not, this situation is not uncommon. Many men are known for dating a doppelganger of their exes. Once a relationship ends, men like this are more prone to find a more "upgraded" version of what they had before. According to Therapist Dr. Bethany Marshall, dating look a likes of past lovers can become unhealthy. By sticking to the features of one particular person he is replacing that person rather than starting fresh which does not give him any room to grieve nor make room for an attachment for the new woman in his life. They say imita...

If there is a poll of most frequent questions googled I wouldn't be surprised if the question "Does he like me?" fall into the top 10. For some reason the older we get it still seems like we run into new ways guys express how they feel about a girl causing us to run to every source possible to find the answer. While some give basic answers such as "he appears nervous" others give the most bizarre hints like "his eyes are dialated". I don't know about you, but there would be no way I'd remember half of the things to look out for when talking to a guy I really like. If anything they would probably think I was crazy because I'm looking into their eyes like a rookie cop or focusing on every body angle instead of listening to what they are talking about. So, with all of that saying, "How do you know when he likes you?" Well the answer is really simple. He wants to know more about you : If he's always asking what you're up t...

We've all been there, after months of pining over "Mr. Perfect", someway or another you either took the shot and asked him out, told him how you felt, or he came to you, and in the end, you got a date with the guy who you thought didn't even know you existed. So why aren't you jumping up and down right now? Chemistery : Yes, for there to be any sort of well anything there has to be chemistry. That means you feel comfortable with that person and attracted to that person, which in this case isn't the issue. STOP! : Society has put rose colored glasses on almost every female to make them believe that all guys want a perfectly polished barbie doll. Before you pull out your emergency credit card for the ultimate makoever realize this important piece of information: HE CHOSE YOU! HE SAID YES WHEN HE COULD OF SAID NO.  No guy (sober) is going to make a move on a girl who may not be the potenti...

I decided to create the best dating rules I've read from magazines,books,and personal experience. With so much information out there of what to do and what not to do you can easily find yourself with enough resources to write a ten page thesis. Dating Rules 1. When saying goodnight after 1st date smile and thank him for a wonderful time 2. If you forget to say thank you just wait until he contacts you again 3. Keep the conversations short and sweet. Don’t text more than 2 sentences. 4. Have simple feedback to his questions that aren’t too short and have follow up questions  5. If the first date went longer than planned DON’T make it a habit for others try to change it up sometimes 6. Don’t make it so easy to reach you, keep your usual routine and wait a bit to reply. 7. Don’t always hover on the phone speak the highlights of your day and avoid talking  longer than 15 minutes each conversation 8.If he texts o...

I wanted to write this article so you knew the person behind As Told By a Jersey Girl. One of the main reasons why I created this blog was to have a real person share their thoughts and feelings. Not saying that the talented writers of sources such as Cosmopolitan, and Marie Claire for lack of a better term totally suck. I just always felt that the readers don't get a sense of who they are taking advice from. Who is this person, and why should I or anyone listen to them?I want my readers to have an everyday person who has gone through the same problems they have gone through. I don't want my readers to feel like I’m this perfect person and make you feel guilty for making these mistakes.Because the truth of the matter is I am NOT that person. I am not a licensed psychiatrist, nor am I a professional, diagnosing my readers. Every article on my blog is a real (yet common) issue that I have gone through or issues ones close to me have gone through . I wanted to sha...