I talked about this kind of person before in my 7 deadliest friends blog, but I wanted to bring more attention to the girl who needs all of the attention. If you’re in a situation where you have to deal with someone who constantly steals the spotlight it’s no question how annoying and down right a pain in the ass it can become when she’s practically your shadow. You see a cute top at you’re favorite store she buys one too, you’ve been a fan of an indie band for years, you know every song, and enjoyed every concert until one night you see her moshing in a gift shop t-shirt she just bought 10 minutes ago . You post a funny video you found on youtube to see not only has she posted it too, she’s even gotten more comments.
Now supposedly imitation is supposed to be the highest form of flattery. We’ve even recently seen this in Hollywood with the much talked about debate between Nicki Minaj vs. Lil Kim. In reality, you should feel special that she thinks so highly of you that she has to copy your every move, but when it starts interfering with you’re personal life, it’s probably not because you’re her role model.
You can deal with a little mockery, but when it almost seems as if she can’t handle not having everything she wants then you have a serious problem on your hands. Scenario: You just started talking to the cutest guy, things are going really good between you two and is looking forward to what’s next. That’s when she wants to be apart of the fun too. Every now and then you see her commenting on his statuses or “liking” your favorite pictures of him, and being extra friendly when the three of you are around. In her twisted little mind she doesn’t want to feel as if something is wrong with her because he isn’t paying her any attention. Because of this, she makes it her job to get his attention.
Why Does She Do this?
Normally when a person has always gotten their way, whether it is because they are the only child, or have gotten over on their parents due to a divorce, will find it challenging to be gracious to other people’s happiness. In layman’s terms, she missed the sharing segment on Sesame Street growing up. The reason it seems like she is on the hunt to go after the things you want is because in her mind a voice is telling her this “What does she have that I don’t have that makes her so special?” Even when it’s not you she is thinking this about, she has a hard time accepting the fact that she can’t have everything she wants. In her case the grass will always look greener regardless of how much she has right in front of her. No matter how unhappy someone is with their life it’s important to know what makes other people happy will not necessarily make you just as happy.
As hard as it may seem, the solution is to just try not to let her get under your skin. If she’s knows you find it annoying she’ll use that as her fuel to keep pushing your buttons only to feel better about herself. Think of it like this, if she has to work that hard to be noticed then you can only feel bad for her. If the guy you are talking to picked you why feel intimidated if she is making a career to get this guy to look the other way. Anything that is meant to be should be effortless and in her case she’s been putting too much effort into something she has no business getting involved in. Don’t sweat the small stuff kid